Happy Halloween!

I didn't expect this, but it really makes my day. "Trick or Treat?"

I didn't have any candies home, luckily I found some beef jerky. The children said "Never mind~" I think I chose "Treat"? Here are we, Bla~~~~ Happy Halloween!

We have had enough about LOVE, Let's talk about LIFE.

When we talk about love, we always describe it as sweet, fantastic, happy ... While when we refer to life, stuff always comes with hard, tough, miserable ... In Leon, Mathilda asks Leon:"Is life always this hard, or it is only when you are a child?" Leon thinks for a while, then answers "Always this hard." And, we all take it as true.

So, we spend a lot of time to seek a sanctuary for us escaping from the miserable life. Some fantasy on love, is the most common sanctuary. A lot of friends talk to me like this :"I need a relationship , or the boring life will kill me ... bla bla bla" When I turn on TV, I always find the same stories : no matter what age the character is in , he or she run into a passion of love, go through with a lot of dreamy things. That makes me feel even more pity. Then I almost take it as true, although struggling a lot : "We are born to suffer from life", when I met this movie : Julie and Julia.

I didn't expect much from this movie for I even didn't know it before I went to the cinema. Overworked quite a lot, I just want a comedy to turn me into a good mood ---- I had watched the same type of movies in the last few months, The Proposal, The Ugly Truth, etc... That's why I chose this woman topic movie among a batch of horror movies, and besides, there's Meryl Streep in the movie , I'd admit this is the only reason I bought the ticket.

I found it not long after the movie started: It is a similar movie to The Hours, less serious, smaller topic but more comedy. Two women, who are in similar situation, similar mood, lead a similar life. Though they are not living at the same ages, they even get communicated and understood from each other (maybe not each other, but at least one from another). The story is simple: Cooking changes the lives of the both two women.

The interesting thing for me is, how and why did it change the lives? When I was watching the movie, I was not eager to write down the answer in some kind of theory. I tried to feel what they are feeling , what they are going through, what they are "suffering". No big deal happens in the movies, but a strange magnificent feeling of happiness crashed into me. That's what life looks like, not only the sweet scene on the birthday party, but also frustrating experience, fighting with who you love, bitter things you can never tell others. I am always thinking: How can we lead a life without these negative things? I am keeping thinking about this that sometimes I am confused: Does the depressing stuff make the happy ones more shiny, or, we sometimes mentally thirst for the "bad feeling" itself and we enjoy it. I am coming to know why there're ascetic monks. The man with the most property may not lead the happiest life for they have no chance to suffer from life. We make our life a treasure only when we get the both side of coins, even stupid Korean TV series know this, though they make it in a silly way ---- turn one of the lovers to death by some disease.

That is why, love is always some parallel dots over the life, it can never replace the life. Life itself, is the most beautiful thing ever, not only the love. We are pacing to our 30s, we need to take the last time to dance with passion, we also need to learn to taste the life. There's a survey on kaixin001.net, of which the participants are mostly at the age of 20s. The title is "Women at what age do you think are the most fascinating?" I voted at 16-20 (Don't beat me, you know me), but the one get the most votes is "30-40". I think it is reasonable because at this age, women can know not only love but also life. I'll talk it more when I give remarks on the actress later.

OK, enough labouring on the simple philosophy of life and love. Let's move on to the actress. I have told you that I came into the cinema to watch it only because one name "Meryl Streep". But I get more than I thought: the film itself, the director, and, AMY ADAMS.

Let still begin with Meryl. When we refer to Meryl, words always begin like this:"What else can I say about her? She is a legend!" I totally agree with this, but it is too inane. "She is widely regarded as one of the most talented and respected movie actors of the modern era."----quoted on the wikipedia. It is the same inane. For me, she is great because of two reasons. First is she can act anyone and make character real. Some of the greatest actors can not do this. Like Al Pacino, he is talented, too. But his acting is labled. For Meryl, From Kramer vs Kramer to Sophie's Choice, to The Hours, The devil wears Prada, MaMa Mia, Doubt, and this Julie and Julia, can you find a little common ground among the characters in these film? May there is, but these characters is so different that sometimes you feel shocked when you find they are acted by one actress. And, that is Meryl. But the situation of Meryl is subtle: every time she did a great performance, people take it as customs : She IS Meryl. So she get 15 nominations of the academy and only get two in her early age. She was nominated again last year but was beaten by Kate. Do not blame Kate, she is quite OK. What I mean is , Meryl, she can rest like Robert or Al Pacino, for there's no honor she still needs to chasing after. But she is still acting, isn't it amazing? That is the gift for us. Second thing of Meryl is, that she can act in a way of low profile but still touch your heart, which few actors can reach the state. She don't need to perform exaggeratedly to make the audience think she has skills. She can make you forget she is acting someone, get an illusion that you are facing the real person. At least, in her film, she really did it. And I have to say, when Meryl is getting older, she is more likely to show she has the talent to make some exaggerated performance. Take Julia Child in this movie for an example, she designs a French style English accent for the character which gets a lot applause. She shows the positive attitude to life of Julia Child and turn her into an adorable fat woman. Maybe the real Julia Child in the history is exactly like this, but for me, I feel a little uneasy for the character herself. Anyway, it is a comedy, so it is not a big deal. Edited: I call back what I said on Meryl's Julia, after I have watched the real Julia TV show, Meryl did a phenomenal job!

Guess what? If someone acts against Meryl, she need to take tons of courage. If she can get noticed in a positive way, or even be mentioned at the level of Meryl in some way, she will definitely become a leading star. Anne Hathaway failed, but this Amy Adams made it. I was keeping asking myself, why I knew nothing about this actress before and she is 36 now. Can you believe this? The Julie Powell's performer is 36 years old! And further more, she has been highly spoken of in her last film with Meryl ----Doubt. I've watched last year's Oscar Ceremony but I did not even notice her. What a shame! Let's take a look at what she did in Julie and Julia against Meryl. She was acting a 30-year-old woman in the modern era whom we are so familiar with. There were not many spaces for her to rebuild the character in her own way. She has a hard task to convince us this is the Julie who lives with us, not a fiction one. Then I met this Julie, friendly, real, like the neighbor. She is adorable with some jumpy nerve. She made me to have an idea: I need a woman like this and it would not only in a fiction, I can find her somewhere. Isn't it fantastic? Isn't it the most wonderful thing that you want to jump out of your seat, pointing at the character on the screen, shouting "I know her, I have some very same friend!" Last time I felt like to doing this was on An Equation of Love and Death which Zhou Xun was in it. I would like to repeat again: But Amy Adams is 36 years old, can you believe this? I was joking with some friend after I watched the movie:" I think the world is distorted, 91 is captured by a 36-year-old woman, not a lolita~ Holy shit!" Besides this woman has neither a beautiful face nor an attractive body. I have to admit, I will still vote 16-20, but the Oscar belongs to, the world belongs to the women in her 30s and 40s.

And, that is the age the woman start spend LIFE with you, after the great passion of LOVE.

在李俊博客里的留言，纯搬运。

我有这样一个父亲，他义正言辞地对我说：“你要做一个对祖国，对社会有用的人，将来为中华民族的复兴作出自己的贡献。”我丝毫没有讥笑这番话的意思，也从不认为我父亲说这番话是为了show他思想觉悟的崇高——他是真真切切就是这样想的。我也从不怀疑他是一个真正的堂堂正正的人。然而，我，这样一个有典型代表性的80后，天天在父亲的呵斥下长大，却从来无法让自己做事的动机以此为目标。于是，我成了社会的渣滓，成了千夫所指。太多人看着我，痛心疾首，就和李俊老师一样。

为什么这会成为80后的特质？因为他们在世界观形成的时候正好赶上了中国最特殊的时期。他们看到了计划经济的尾巴，也看到了市场经济和改革开放。太多的破立让他们世界观里写下了最大的关键词——“否定”。还有另一个关键词，“自我”。这是个在70年代写在反面教科书上的词，我不想去讨论自我和集体还有社会的关系，这么辩证的东西我们学过了几百遍了。有一点可以肯定的是，70年代或者再往前去10年，那时对于自我的认识是错误的，或者说偏颇的。这便让整个80后有最坚定的信念去否定它，结果显而易见，80后已经被戴上了“太自我”的标签。这没错，怪谁？到底是什么让80后已经不能把“民族振兴”作为自己行动的直接目标？社会给了他们太多鲜活的例证来质疑这些东西了，这比李俊老师严肃的说教（没有任何贬义，李老师说的都是毫无疑问正确的）有冲击力多了。给出这些例证的和示范的人又是谁呢？大多也是和李俊老师同一辈或者同时代的人吧。很讽刺，也包括了李俊老师崇拜的杨先生。非常有趣，80后们一边骂着杨振宁，同时把周恩来奉为有史以来最伟大的网络偶像，一边却在干着截然相反的事情——出国，发表大量的paper，然后定居美国，娶妻生子，企盼着成为下一个杨振宁或者类似的人，你看多好，老了还可以娶个年轻貌美的妻子。杨振宁们的私生活与你何干？很抱歉，很有关系，请问有当父亲的愿意在孩子面前show出混乱的私生活吗？然后抛出一句，私生活与你何干？传统在80后这里式微

的最大原因，便是那些传承者没有用自己当作示范来作例证，而另一些人，他们无心，却在做着这些。我们都很钦佩李俊老师的造诣和为人，但是如果你去问问我们中的大多数，你愿不愿意将来做一个李俊老师这样的人，过和李俊老师一样的生活？答案不用我说大家也可以猜到。是

真的李俊老师这样的生活和为人不如某些人吗？我看不是，但是李俊老师没有告诉过我成为他那样的人有怎么的好处，他告诉我的只是，成为另一类人有多么的不好。

整个大学给了我正确的形式，却没有给我正确的说服力示范。我明白了社会公德和民族气节，我将它埋于深心，how to do in the future？那些教我大义的没有教我，或者没有证明他们的吸引力。这便是现在教育的缺失。社会反面例子太多，正面人士做了太多的指责，却没有做示范。我只坚信一点，教育而言，身教大于言传太多了。

庆幸的是，80后的荣耻观还是正确的，这还得感谢各位老师。他们至少会在网上用各种低级的谩骂来证明他们知道道德的制高点在哪。将来如何，大师会不会从他们中走出，我也持悲观态度，但是，我明白一点，如何再造大师，不能再学前一辈大师走过的路，他们生于民族危难之

时，他们的动力是目睹千千万的苦难，那依然是鲜活的例子，而现在，民族已然不能算是危难，那些苦难也只能从李俊老师和我的父亲的口中得知，我再也不能亲见，难道指望我们动力来自这些话语，真的，太空泛了。到底如何成材，我们并不是不在摸索，我只觉得，一定是另一种模式，我们没有放弃过传承，李俊老师的人格魅力，我们需要更多去模仿的理由。我们现在并不是不在模仿，但是我的父亲还有李俊老师，我们希望更加快乐和感觉理所应当的去模仿。

补充：

据我所知，所有浪子回头的故事，里面让浪子回头的，没有一个是正气凌然义正言辞的喝骂。或是一个让他心悦诚服的人，或是一件触发内心的事，或者其他鲜活的让他反思和动容的后果及其他东西。李俊老师以及您的朋友熟读中国古代的故事，相信能找到比我所知还多的故事。我爱看老一辈拍的《大宅门》，里面是什么让顽劣的白老七回头的呢？不是她母亲的各种呵斥——她母亲也是个伟大的人。一切都来自白老七那句——“嘿，真神了。”对80后爱之深痛之切的李俊老师，希望我的这些看法能给您和某些80后论战一些新的视野。

一个上过李俊老师高量但是没学懂考试靠背题目和李俊老师手下留情才通过的80后留。